There are days that i wake up wondering...where art thou? where is my attractive dark, and dimpled someone??!!! God knows how many times i have asked him this question... usually in a fit of loneliness! wondering.. could it have been the last guy i dated? and i never realised that it was he? or No! maybe its the guy who was staring at me in the lift and i didnt even return his smile? The song by Jon B ' where is my love'? comes to mind quickly.
Interestingly, i have thrown out my romantic notions on his looks (altho i still need him to be attractive) i have grown up and realised that there is no perfect person, no perfect meeting... no perfect relationship. My question now goes deeper, so why is it that the percentage of singles is growing bigger with each passing day? Is my singlehood contributed to the fact that we women are now empowered? hence have refused to embrace the ways of our mothers to our detriment? Or has society changed relegating committment to a when it suits me basis? Why is it that more and more marriages are breaking up? Do we have a choice in the matter or are all marriages from 2005 onwards headed for break-ups?
What are the pitfalls that can be avoided to ensure a marriage grows to be a companionship? notice i have not said that a marriage remains sexually active or retains the gooey feeling of love? (altho' yes! i would love that too!) Sorry, i have no answers.... all i have is the conviction that :
Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out.
1 Corinthians 7:3-5 (The Message Bible)
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