Do you believe in marriage?

The other day, i walked into a pal's office to wish them a Happy New Year and of course the usual discussion on resolutions came up. He brought up the topic of relationships and didnt we have a heated debate! For the sake of privacy i will withhold his name and call him Aaron. Firstly, he asked me why i desired m
arriage when the institution of marriage was no longer feasible! Exactly how he put it. His reasons for his distrust in marriage was that fidelity was a thing of the past. He recounted the number of ladies he knew who were unfaithful to their husbands alongside the age old behaviour of guys who beleived that an affair actually helps a relationship! What?Relax, let me expound on how he put it, he said that a man who has a 'side dish' doesnt take home alot of stress and therefore is in a better frame of mind to deal with his family's needs! I retorted that i have never had such a lousy excuse!! I mean, if you'd ask any woman they would tell you that they would rather deal with their husband's foul mood than have him soothed by another woman!
His advise for me was that i should get myself with child and move on! To which i replied that i would prefer to get a child with its father in tow!

My thoughts, why is it that when we go through a lousy relationship we brand guys as incapable of being faithful? Does that mean that the same is true of chics? Why is it so easy for us to come up with a catch-all-phrase/opinion?Before you condemn all relationships are you sure that you dont know at least one relationship that seems to be working? And for our married pals, could you please even as you complain to us about your relationships when things are tough also come and tell us about them when they are working so that we can celebrate with you? Let us have a balanced opinion on the this topic of the century. These quotes speak volumes of what marriage is:

Marriage is an alliance entered into by a man who can't sleep with the window shut, and a woman who can't sleep with the window open. ~George Bernard Shaw

More marriages might survive if the partners realized that sometimes the better comes after the worse. ~Doug Larson

Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate. ~Barnett R. Brickner

Resolutions 2006

Today is the 3rd day of the new year and I'm sure most of you are scribbling away at your 'wish list,'. Lets see, some of what you are writing must be ... 1. quit smoking; 2. open a savings account ;3. join a gym. Personally, I have nothing written down although yes, i cannot avoid making some promises to myslef about the things i will pursue in this new year. I doubt that we can avoid making resolutions. I mean, its a whole new year,its a new start! How can you stride into this year just as you were last year? Its impossible! I still cannot believe that today is 2006...just saying it sounds strange, it doesnt roll down my tongue instead 2006 gets stuck on the roof of my tongue.

For those in Kenya I pray that we take stock of how far we have come. Let us put our discerning caps on as this year willl be a compaign year what with elections being held next year! It was a dry christmas and i dont know about you but i felt horrible tearing into piece after piece of nyama choma.... My increasing bloated stomach growing larger with the background of news showing images of my fellow Kenyans starving to death! come on guys, lets try to contribute in some sort to give these guys some food.

My mail box is full! I wish i could press delete but i cannot therefore... gotta go! Oh, I must confess to overeating bigtime! i tell you I tore into meat and starch without a glance at my already colossal hips! oh well, better not regret rather, you guessed right...crash detox program ;o)

I hope to write again in the course of the day, in the meantime...

May 2006 be the year that your dreams come true!
May you start your business..
May your little one take their first step!
May you get the job that you have desired!
May your relationships improve!
May your family remain blessed!
May you sigh in contentment at the beauty of life!
May your wedding be great this year!
May you (ME!) meet your someone this year!
May life deal you bouquet of flowers!
May your appreciate life even as you mourn the ones you loved that passed on last year ...
May your foundations run deep...
May your find yourself and find the God that loves you!