When I turned 26, I had of course made a lot of friends over the years some dating back to primary whilst others I met in college and others still in my professional life. Call it a coming of age, but a couple of months after that, during some me-time I realized that I needed to sort out my friendships. I went to my reading table and armed with paper and pen wrote down all the friends I interacted with on a daily to weekly basis and others monthly basis but who still added value to my life. I started a mental evaluation of the value of all my friends realized that I could classify my friends into various categories i.e. those I discuss spiritual issues, career, family, finance, dating scene and those who appealed to the fun side of me.
I leaned back in bed with a satisfied smile as a light bulb came on. No wonder I always call Adam when I need to speak money matters and Wanini when I need to mourn about my lack of a love life ;o)
I remembered an email I had received on friendships. That there are season, reason and life-time pals. Once again, I remembered the instances when I had met very intriguing people who we quickly hit off with and after a couple of months slowly stopped communicating with. I choose to believe that all the people I meet can add value in my life depending on my reception towards them and of course, their reception of me.
My friends out there, I hope that I have added value to your life and not been a drain. Take time off to evaluate your friendships and classify your friends. It will quickly dawn on why you naturally find yourself not telling a particular friend about a health problem but quickly tell another. Choose your friends carefully for they are the siblings we never had!
